FIVE QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR ONLINE DATE
If you just started online dating, or perhaps you’re a veteran, there are a few important questions to ask your potential date so you can more easily determine if he or she is a suitable match for you. Here's a list of Dating with Dignity’s top five questions you should ask an online date.
1. What are you looking for in a relationship? Based on their answer, you can evaluate if what they’re looking for matches what YOU are looking for. If it does, great. And if it doesn’t, someone else is right around the corner.
2. What’s your most embarrassing moment? This one will help you determine if your online date has a sense of humor. Opening up with your story is a great way to grease the wheels so that they feel comfortable opening up to you. Remember, though, to pick a story that reflects a cute or quirky habit you may have. Sharing about a bodily function oops is never sexy.
3. What does your ideal Saturday morning look like? Having similar schedules or ideas for how to spend a weekend is a good indicator of your compatibility with an online date. If their idea is a six a.m. bike ride followed by a full day of work, and you prefer to lay in bed all day and catch up on Game of Thrones... let’s just say it might be slightly more difficult for you two to find common interests: not impossible, just less likely.
4. What about my profile made you want to write me? This can help weed out someone who mass copy/pasted a message to 50 other people... and will make him/her actually read your profile. Also they’ll have to tell you if it was your photos, your wit, or some combination of both.
5. Where does your family live? Do you see them often? Family values are pretty important to most people. And if they aren’t? While that’s acceptable, you want to be sure that the other person’s perspective on family matches yours. Do they never see their relatives? Do they talk to their mom on the phone daily? These interactions will DEFINITELY affect your potential future together, so it’s a great thing to know about ahead of time.
... DON’T send a list of questions in a personal email. You’ll make your potential suitor think they’re interviewing for a job. Sprinkle them over a few notes back and forth, and try to make them flow organically.
... DON’T ask how much money they make. Don’t ask things like, "When did your last relationship end and why?" Think of your email as a coffee shop date: would you ask those types of questions on a first date?
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